Tuesday, February 14, 2012

on girls and their emotions


You know, emotions are a really funny thing.

As a girl, often we are stereotyped as being “so emotional.”  We get emotional and blame it on our period.  We cry at a movie, reading a story in a magazine, when we hear good news, when we hear bad news.  We are trained that having emotions is a bad thing.  We apologize for the way we feel.

I am sick and tired of feeling like I have to say “I’m sorry” for the way I feel.  It is the way I feel and you can’t tell me if that is okay or not.  I am tired of other people trying to dictate how I am feeling and more than anything I HATE that I don’t always share what I am thinking or feeling with other people because I just don’t feel like fighting the fight when they disagree with me.

You can disagree with what I have to say, but you MUST respect my right to say what I have to say.

Social media has CLEARLY made this world a more critical place and we hide behind it and use it as a vehicle to say what we want to say all while trying to dodge the proverbial bullet of engaging in unwanted, over critical dialogue.

I want to function in a time and place, a space where I don’t have to say “I’m just tired,” to cover disappointment, anger, fear, resentment, disagreement…

Why is it that so often we as women sweep under the run the things that bring us all of these emotions and dismiss them instead of confronting them? 

Is it because it is easier to forget than it is to feel?
Is it because it is easier to carry on then it is to carry the weight on our shoulders?
Is it because we are judged for opening our mouths?
Is it because when we share what we feel we are seen as weak?

for now though...

LM